Have you ever actually decided who would be responsible for what at home?
Have you ever actually decided who would be responsible for what at home?
Or, like most people, did you just fall into routines and habits based on what you thought was expected? Then at some point, you noticed that things don't seem to be divided fairly (especially when it comes to the mental load).
TIRED OF CARRYING THE TEAM AT HOME?
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This course is not just about dividing up chores.
It's about examining why and how one of you became the default manager of your lives while the other is going with the flow. It's about working together (as a team) to create systems that reduce the mental load overall. And it's about creating a balanced and supportive home life, so no one feels overwhelmed or resentful.
Why is finding real balance at home so difficult? Because it isn't a personal issue or a relationship issue. It's systemic.
It's time you finally stopped carrying the mental load alone.
You don't have to do it ALL.
Your time is the most valuable thing you have. So, spend it that way.
Your time is the most valuable thing you have. So, spend it that way.
I KNOW THE STRUGGLE
ready for your life to change?
Here's What You Need:
MORE TIME FOR THINGS YOU ACTUALLY ENJOY
A coffee run and a solo trip to buy diapers isn't the same thing as a round of golf. Address time inequality (both the quantity and quality of your free time).
SHARed responsibility (not just help with the to do list)
Learn to divide and conquer entire domains, so you can reduce your mental load overall and trust that your partner has their share under control.
clearly defined standards and expectations
The reality is: the expectations and standards are different for men and women. Learn to notice them, communicate, and unpack them (without blame) in a way that leads to reflection and change for the better.
Start sharing the mental load as a team. This course takes you through a transformative process, helping you identify where exactly the imbalance is coming from and what to do about it. By the end of the course, you'll have the language, tools, and mindset shifts you need to start making changes that actually last.
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introducing...
Module One
Introduction: The course starts by defining what the mental load is and examining how the problem of mental load imbalance is systemic. This is what makes the course so effective: it's not just a personal problem.
WHAT'S IN THE COURSE?
Module Two
Let's talk about it. This module guides you through how to communicate about the mental load effectively (without leading to an argument) and how to address conflict or dismissiveness.
Module Three
This module gets into the details: what exactly makes up the mental load, research backing how domestic work and the mental load disproportionately fall on women, and how that harms everyone (men too).
Module Four
Parents: This is an optional model for parents or anyone interested the physical, emotional, and mental load of raising kids. You will learn how to be intentional about where you fall on the the default parent to equal parent spectrum.
Module Five
Balance: This is the practical "but-how-do-we-actually-do-it" module. Learn research-backed strategies for building habits and creating systems, so you can work together as a team to create a balanced and supportive home environment.
Module Six
The Big Picture: Take a step back and remember why you took the course in the first place. We will cover some big topics to put it all in perspective and remind ourselves why this matters so much.
Module Seven
You did it! You made it through the course, but the work doesn't stop here. Learn how to keep your momentum going and maintain the balanced and supportive home environment you have created.
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HERE'S WHERE YOU COULD BE IN 4 WEEKS:
How does this sound?
your partner notices things that need to be done and handles them without being asked or reminded
conversations with your partner feel like a strategy session, not a power struggle
you are more present with your kids because you trust your systems and don't need to stress over what isn't done
you don't feel resentful, you feel supported
You are actually enjoying your free time without earning it or feeling distracted
ENROLL NOW
Learn what the mental load is, how it is disproportionately carried by women, why that is, and how it harms everyone (including men).
step 1
Learn how to talk about it productively and effectively, then identify where it shows up in your home or relationship.
STEP 2
Work together to create systems that shift the mental load and reduce your collective mental load. Let go of the rest!
STEP 3
How it works
A year from now, you'll
wish you had started today....
so let's get started!
If you're On the fence, let me say this: YOU BOTH DESERVE TO BE FULL PARTICIPANTS IN YOUR OWN HOME LIFE
Sharing the mental load doesn't come naturally to most couples. That's because we're all shaped by our experiences and the society we live in, and mental load imbalance is a systemic issue. We can't fix the system, but we can make real changes in our own homes. This course takes you through the transformative process that worked for me, and it will work for you too.
"But, my husband just doesn't get it."
The mental load doesn't have to be divided perfectly to see results. When you're carrying 90% of it, even getting to 70/30 can be life changing.
It's not that you need help, but you deserve it. I'm here to guide you through the process of reducing and shifting your mental load. I will show you what actually works.
you're in the right place.
Enjoying your free time without your mental to-do list popping up or feeling the need to earn it.
Seeing your partner notice, anticipate, plan, and coordinate, not just help with your list.
Having productive conversations about who does what and what the standard is.
Reducing your collective mental load and running your home by using systems that work for you.
Enjoying your family time instead of feeling like the only one responsible for it all.
Feeling more balanced and supported at home, without the resentment under the surface.
By the end of 4 weeks, you'll be...
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I'm a mother, attorney, and consultant in the corporate world, raising two little ones alongside my husband. I founded Mockingbird Learning to use my personal and professional experience to help women and couples achieve balance at home and streamline their lives to make time for what they love.
Not too long ago,
I was overworked and overwhelmed.
My story starts like a lot of women: my maternity leave ended. I didn't realize how much of the mental load I was carrying until I went from having one job to two: (1) my corporate consulting job and (2) mom. But why didn't my husband's workload suddenly double? He was more than happy to do anything I asked, but why was I asking?
It wasn't him, and it wasn't me. It was the fact that we were navigating a system that was never really designed for equal partnership. So, we created our own systems, learning and unlearning a lot of things along the way.
i can help because i've been there
I know how to help!
This course is the only one of its kind because...
it actually gets to the heart OF THE IMBALANCE
When I started Mockingbird Learning, I had every intention of helping women with time management and strategies. But I quickly realized this: women don't need any more tips or tricks.
We need support, and we need to get rid of the double standards at home. Women have made a lot of progress out in the world, but we haven't really changed our expectations of men at home. And we're all harmed by that. We're overwhelmed and missing out on our own lives (both men and women in different ways).
This course will provide some practical strategies, but it's not a bunch of productivity tips. Because that's not what we actually need.
MY STORY: HERE'S WHY THIS MATTERS SO MUCH TO ME
It was a Thursday evening and dinner is in the oven when my husband got a call from our 4 week-old baby's pediatrician. "We just got the test results back. You need to take him to the hospital right now."
That's not what we expected to hear. He had taken him to the ER the night before, they ran some tests, and he seemed to be doing better all day. All of the sudden, I was frantically putting things into a bag and getting him out the door as quickly as possible.
Thankfully, we have a healthy, happy one year old who made a full recovery. But in that moment, everything was uncertain.
I didn't realize it until months later, but there was one thing that held everything together for the 10 days we spent taking turns caring for each of our boys (one at home and one in the hospital).
It was my trust in him and his ability to keep everything else together for as long as he needed to, and his trust in me to do the same. That trust allowed us both to focus completely on what was most important in the moment.
He didn't need a list, or reminders, or instructions. He already knew what to do. He controlled the situation, so our three-year-old felt safe. He got him to bed, then up and to school. He arranged for extra help. He contacted our families. All while supporting me emotionally (one month postpartum) through the whole thing.
That's what it looks like to have an equal partner. Not just one who does their share of the chores, but one who shares in managing the mental load and emotional labor too, so you're not carrying it all alone.
Will it always be perfect? Of course not. But having someone who shares the mental load gives you the time and space to focus on what you need, not just what everyone else needs.
What if you had to drop everything?
This program includes everything you need to create real change.
Having real free time you can enjoy
Not being the only one who makes the plans
Being present during family time, not constantly managing everyone's needs on your own
Building a home environment that feels balanced and supportive, not overwhelming
Feeling truly equal in your home and relationship
Feeling more balanced, and rested, and in alignment with the life you want to be living
If you want this to be the year that you finally commit to:
ENROLL NOW
Complete the program within 40 days. Get your money back if it didn’t serve you.
If you complete the program within 40 days of your purchase, and it just wasn't right for you, no worries! Contact me and I will issue you a full refund. I'm so confident in this program, I'll take the risk, so you don't have to!
money back
guarantee
100%
This for you if:
YOU'RE READY TO MAKE CHANGES
YOU'RE HAPPY WITH HOW THINGS ARE
YOU'RE CARRYING MORE THAN YOUR SHARE OF THE MENTAL LOAD
THE MENTAL LOAD BALANCE IN YOUR HOME IS PRETTY GOOD
YOU WANT SOMEONE TO HELP GUIDE YOU THROUGH THE PROCESS
It's probably for you if...
YOU CAN MAKE THE CHANGES YOU WANT ON YOUR OWN
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SHARING IS CARING.
SO WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?
Do I have to take this course with my partner?
While I recommend taking this course with your partner, you can absolutely take it by yourself and introduce some of the concepts to them on your own. Or you can take it by yourself first, then take it together. Or you can take it separately, then talk about what you thought. You know your relationship best, so it's completely up to you!
Frequently Asked Questions
I've tried so many things. How is this different?
People often think shifting the mental load and balancing things fairly at home is a matter of showing our partners all the things they don't see, then figuring out better systems for managing them. Even when that works, it usually doesn't last. This course is different because it starts by getting to the heart of why things were never balanced in the first place. Without fully diagnosing the problem, our solutions are more like a bandaid than a cure.
Do you offer a refund if I'm not satisfied?
I'm so confident in this program that I offer a 100% refund if you aren't satisfied. But there is a slight catch: you have to actually try the course in order to get a refund. If you're not satisfied within 40 days of your purchase, send me an email and I will refund you!
I don't think my partner would go for this. Should I still join?
You know your partner best. This course is for couples in safe, secure relationships. If there is any potential for violence or abuse, it is not worth the risk. But if you are in a safe relationship and you just don't think your partner is open-minded enough to change, here's what I think. Are you the same person you were 10 years ago? If not, that's because you changed. We all do. Your partner deserves the opportunity to change and to make their own choices. I think it's worth a shot.
let's work together
Want to learn more about my individual or couples coaching? Have an inquiry on how we could collaborate? Send me an email!
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